From the Editor
“What’s your bounce back factor?” the fitness trainer asked me. She went on to explain your bounce back factor is how quickly you can get back on track after you mess up. Then, she said, it is the single most important indicator of success. “No matter how much you train, exercise or eat perfectly, at some point, you will slip up. What will make or break you is how quickly you can get back on track.”
This simple truth applies to everything in life. How many times have I tried something new and fell short of my goal? I could tell myself, “I can’t. I’m not good enough,” or “I had a bad day. I am going to try harder or differently tomorrow.” The latter is a solid bounce back.
Resilience is the quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever. Rather than letting failure overcome them and drain their resolve, they find a way to rise and be better than before. Your resilience is your bounce back factor and it matters more and is more indicative of success than any other quality.
I’ve learned that life is messy and rarely goes as planned. If we graphed our progress toward any achievement, it would be rare to see a straight line of improvement. Most often it is one step forward, two steps back, four steps forward and one back, etc… The setbacks are opportunities for us to up our game and try again.
I had the honor of meeting with the newly-crowned Miss NJ, Kaitlyn Schoeffel. I am so proud to have Schoeffel represent not only my state, but my hometown of Egg Harbor Township as she goes on to compete in the Miss America Pageant. Schoeffel has proven to have supreme resilience. She competed for Miss New Jersey and lost, not once, not twice, but five times before winning the competition on her sixth try. Without her bounce back factor, she would never have known the successes she could rise to. You can read more about Schoeffel’s journey to the crown in this issue of Shore Local Newsmagazine on page 12.
Resiliency is a superpower known to many of the most accomplished in all fields. Babe Ruth wrote, “It’s hard to beat a person who never quits.” As parents, we spend a lot of time and energy making sure our kids get good grades, are honest, polite, confident and athletic. I never thought about whether my children were resilient. If I had a redo on parenting, I would cringe less at the failures my kids faced, and see them more as opportunities to foster resilience. “Be a tryer,” I would emphasize. Tryers make great employees and leaders because their defeats are never really defeats, only setbacks on their road to even greater heights.
As we celebrate the 4th of July this week, it’s easy to see that America was built on the backs of our very resilient ancestors. The Revolutionary War posed many setbacks and disappointments to the patriots, especially early on. How different our lives would have been if they gave up. Thankfully, they did not. They were resilient and tried again and again until they defeated the Redcoats and gained independence from British rule. May God Bless those brave soldiers who fought for our freedom and the brave soldiers who are still fighting for it today. May God Bless America always.
Peace & Love,