By Christina Sciarretta
I’d like to pose a pretty straightforward question: What are you doing with your life? No, really… WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH YOUR LIFE? It has been said that If you aim at nothing, you’ll hit it every time. Many of us run around like mad hatters on a daily basis, busy as can be, with no clue whether we’re winning or losing, because we have absolutely no idea what we are even aiming for. We don’t know what the target is. But listen to this: when you know what the target is, you’re only a plan and some hustle and heart away from achieving it.
So I want to challenge you in my column this week to get super clear on exactly what it is that you want in your life, your business, your family, etc. I just want you define your target, so that you can begin creating a plan to get there.
It is pretty scary to think about achieving our wildest dreams, right? If you don’t believe me, then do me a favor and write down who, what, and where you would be, do, or have, if you could be, do, or have anything in the world. Articulate it with eagle eye precision. Not as easy as you thought, huh? To make it easier to chew, let’s break it down into sweet little devourable chunks of clarity.
If you could have any profession, what would it be? If you are currently in an industry or position that you want to be in, ask yourself a deeper question: What does success look like in that role? What does wild success look like in that role? Is that what you want? Remember, it’s the dream life! Write it down. I know, I know, it feels stupid. When you write it down, you actually have to face what it is you truly want deep down, and that feels scary. If you just trust me on this and really commit to being honest with yourself right now, I promise you will have a life changing moment. Clarity is power.
Let’s move on to family. What is it that you want to see in your family or your relationship? Oh please, don’t say “happy and healthy”. Facepalm for days. That’s cheap. I can buy that deeply discounted on the clearance rack at Ross or Marshalls. Think of one big thing. Think of the elephant in the room. If this one thing was on point, it would revolutionize your family. What is that one thing? What would that look like? Get clear and write it down. Let me be clear that you must take personal responsibility for whatever it is that you want, because it is your life, so “I want him or her to do this or that” is not something you can control. You only have control over yourself.
Ask yourself this question in any area of your life, to get clear on what massive success really looks like to you. It is powerful. Once you’re clear on what it is that you want, ask yourself another question:
Why the heck are you not doing it? Before you hit me with the top fifteen excuses that you’ve rehearsed over and over again to yourself for years, hear me out: You have one life. You have one chance to live…really, truly live. I do not care what excuses you have, but you should. I’m not invested in your dream, but you should be. You owe it to yourself. Look how far you’ve taken yourself! You’ve been beaten and bruised and you’re still here, heart pumping and desire, deep down in your belly, for something more.
You see, anything and everything is possible. What you wrote down (no, thinking of it in your mind doesn’t count, so get it on paper, you rebel!) is actually possible. The first step is getting clear on exactly what your win is. Stay tuned to our next issue for the next ste, which is charting the path and finding your “one thing”! Here’s a little teaser, in case you just can’t wait to take action: what is the one thing that you could do today that would make everything else easier or unnecessary in regard to attaining your win? Get started with that and I’ll meet you back here in the next issue. Until then, Shore Locals, I’m sending you peace, love, and good vibes from my beach chair to your’s!
Christina Sciarretta is the president and CEO of The Sciarretta Collection of Keller Williams Jersey Shore, a real estate and media team. Born and raised in Atlantic County, she’s a mom with a serious passion for people, good vibes, and AC. She lives in EHT with her husband Andrew and 2 kids, Grayson and Avery Lee.
